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Inner State and Your Career: Are Your Wired For Success?

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9 Unconventional Indicators That Show That You May Not (Yet) Be “Wired For Success”

In my last post, I have talked about how are career vision or our action plan may not be enough for creating a change in your work experience. The basic idea is that you need to approach making that change from a positive place, or else neither the vision nor the actions will carry and reaffirm you and have the power to bring you success.

This week, let’s look at our inner state. What we call inner state is how we experience our consciousness level, or energy level. I thought I’d expand a little on ways of seeing that we are not in a positive energetic space with our approach to becoming more successful, or more fulfilled, or more balanced in our careers. I want to share some less conventional indicators that you may not be in a success mindset yet. If you are aligned with success, abundance, the joy of earning and having money, of being seen and having an impact on the world, then you will experience less of these aspects, or with less intensity or frequency.

Are you already seeing the fruit of your effort – or is your career not where you’d like it to be yet?

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Career Coaching: What You Need To Be Successful

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Career Coaching – More Than a Vision And a Plan

Any career coach would tell you that if you don’t have your vision clear of where you want to go, you can’t get there. They would tell you that if you don’t act and don’t take a risk, you can’t win. And they are right.

As an Energy Psychologist I impart from the assumption that everything is energy – our thoughts and emotions, our body’s, our actions, the things that surround us – really any aspect of our lives and our experience. From that perspective, I would like to ad to the traditional career coaching approach an insight I see in my client’s careers many times: Sometimes, it does not matter whether you have a vision and you know what steps to take to get there. If the vision and the intention to make it happen come from a negative energetic place, you will not have the power or physical energy to create it in your life. You can try really hard, but with no result. Then in may seem that you’ve tried everything, but that you are blocked, and that life just doesn’t support you.

Taking your career to the next level should be as easy and joyful as flying a kite.

That can be a really frustrating and discouraging experience. Career coaching can help you move forward – from the right place, with the right amount of effort, and for the right reasons. And of course – for the right results! Leer más

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Career Development: Why Successful People Stop Being (More) Successful

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Career Development By Changing WHY You Act

Taking your career to the next level, doing something that you really love and that ignites your flame, experiencing meaning in what you do so many hours a day, and being rewarded accordingly – those are some of our client’s  core goals for their career development.

Whether you want to create your own business or find a better job in your field, when having a vision, goals, and pursuing a change by action don’t bring the desired outcome, you have to look inside. Do you feel that you’ve done all the things you used to do, or all the things others do, but this time and for you it just doesn’t work? That is a very frustrating experience.

The Power Of An Action Lies Within

At ReSource Yourself, I teach people that the power of an action to bring you results has a lot to do with your inner state – your emotions, your attitude, your mind-set. The higher the energy or consciousness level you experience when doing an action, the more impact it will have in the world.

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Relationships: The 5 Mental Patterns of Dependence

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How our mind creates and maintains patterns of dependence – and how to dissolve them

Yesterday, three clients told me things like “I turn into this needy person when I get into a relationship”. And it’s amazing and true: The strongest and most independent people can experience relationships patterns of dependence and addiction. So, I thought, it’s worth a blog post. Let’s look at what dependence is, how to detect it, and the typical mental patterns and thoughts that create dependence. And, of course, let’s look at HOW TO GET OUT OF IT!!!

  • Are you sick of always the same cycle in your relationship(s)?
  • Do you feel like you are playing a game in which the other person always moves towards you when you just decided to end it, or distance yourself?
  • Have you broken it off a few times, but then find yourself at a point where you want to enjoy certain aspects, and get back in, only to return to the realization that you don’t want this?
  • Is your relationship consuming too much of your energy and time?

If you’ve answered any or several of the previous questions with YES, chances are you are experiencing a dependent relationship pattern. I could call it addictive, because in many cases we really have the feeling that it’s bigger than us and we cannot get out. So we keep loosing energy and engaging in a process that cannot lead to what we are really searching for – a balanced and positive and loving relationship.

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Relationships: What is love?

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If you ask me, “what’s love?”, I must admit that I really don’t know. Or rather, it’s such a complex and deep question to answer that I have had and have a different answer at different stages in my life. So I thought, it’s definitely worth a blog post.

So, what is love?

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How to Process a Breakup or Relationship Crisis

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As I’ve explained in my last post about relationships, the inner energetic process we go through when we experience a relationship crisis is the same as when we go through a breakup. We have to let go of what is not ours, of all the needs and expectations, and the responsibilities of our partner, and we have to take back our own responsibilities and process our own emotional issues.

The key to experiencing love is finding it within yourself.

The general idea is: We have to return to being whole and happy alone, to being strong and in our own power and strength. When we get to that place, we can know with clarity and without the influence of old automatic patterns, if we want to and can be with the other person. It’s the place of inner strength where we are actually capable of loving the other person, not just our idea of what they are or can be. And it’s in that place of inner strength that we can love ourselves. And one thing is clear: We can only receive love from others if we love ourselves.

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Relationships: Breakup or Crisis?

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A relationship – and that’s the same for a love relationship as for a friendship – should bring out the best in us. It should help us see our strengths and resources, be joyful, laugh, feel good about ourselves, and support us in good and in bad times.

I’ve learned the hard way that one other aspect is very important and crucial in relationships: Balance. Equilibrium between giving and receiving. And many times we catch ourselves working so hard on a relationship, trying to understand, trying to talk, trying to adapt, trying to help and give and be better for the other person. And when we work hard, the responsibilities feels bigger and heavier and we experience less and less love and joy and laughter and lightness, less happiness. Then what we do is try to make the other person see how they have to change to bring about balance for us, to give as much as we have given, in the way that would work for US. Maybe it wouldn’t actually work for them, or maybe they are just not there. The interesting thing is that, whether we want or not, if the relationship is not balanced, if we don’t receive as much as we give or give as much as we receive, it makes us BOTH feel small and inadequate and pressured and just NOT ENOUGH.

We don’t attract people who make us happy. We attract people who make us grow. And when we do grow, we get happy. When we expand and resolve negativity within us and actualize ourselves and feel complete and in our power, that’s when we are happy. And the people in our lives help us get there, but they cannot do it for us. When we are happy and complete, that is when it’s easy for others to love us. It is because we love ourselves, and we can radiate that energy, and others connect with it and mirror it to us. The same way that they may mirror our feelings of inadequacy, doubt, or fear. So there is only one recipe for a long lasting and happy relationship: Both partners have to learn to love themselves, and to take their own responsibility for their demons and destructive patterns. Because of course, our demons and shortcomings and doubts are always part of the relationship, too. The important thing is though, that we raise our awareness of those patterns, have the courage to admit to them, and that we keep the responsibility for our own needs that underly them. When we take care of our own needs, we don’t have to project onto our partners and we can create closeness and sharing. We don’t have to expect our partner to make us happy, and burden them with too much for anyone to carry.

So how can we get out of feeling needy, projecting on our partner, fighting, or living relationship patterns that are not healthy? How can we let go? Leer más

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The Power of the Mind 3: How Positive Thoughts Can Be Negative

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We’ve talked about how negative beliefs influence our lives and keep us from fulfilling our potential. We’ve also talked about how the emotional context gives meaning and power to a belief , and makes it more or less positive.

But recently I’ve become very aware that even positive beliefs, or more correctly said, seemingly positive beliefs, can be limiting us and keeping us from growing or having positive experiences.

Let’s take a common spiritual teaching as an example:

Many schools teach the spiritual searchers that they have to accept whatever life brings and not resist it. In the context of acceptance (Hawkins’ consciousness level 350-400), this is clearly a positive believe, because it will keep us from wasting our energy fighting the inevitable, and enable us to focus our efforts where they can have an effect. So when someone subscribes to this pattern of thinking because of the experience of acceptance, he would have a positive outcome, learn and grow, and probably be really happy with this way of seeing the world.

Here comes the problem: our mind can hold on to the mental pattern, and without us noticing it, our motivation or underlying emotion can change. In other words, that pattern can be enacted or applied out of context. Let’s say our spiritual searcher applies his principle of acceptance diligently, but little by little develops the sensation that nothing matters. In his subconscious mind he may reason “if I accept everything, what does it matter if I make an effort? And so this belief he holds, all of a sudden, would be connected to a consciousness field of apathy (Hawkins’ level of consciousness 50-75, a context in which we experience little energy and no push to move and change things. The belief will still sound positive, but the emotions around it are not.

What does that mean? It means that by using our mind alone we can never be sure whether something we think is actually positive or negative. Hawkins has found a way of testing the context, or energy level by the use of kinesiology (a muscle test). So in the ReSource Yourself therapy we can make sure that our beliefs don’t get in the way without us noticing, or that we can let go of the negative concepts and emotions that drag a belief “down”. But in everyday life, we unfortunately have little awareness of all the motivations and emotions that make us think or belief or do anything, and much less of how they change. At the end, life has a way of giving us feedback, but that’s usually painful.

We have to use the clues we have as to what context this belief is in, which emotions it comes with, and our sensation for whether holding this belief gives us energy and helps us grow, or doesn’t. And those clues don’t so much come from the mind, but we find them in our bodies, in our emotions, in our physical energy, and sometimes even in other people’s reactions to us.

But one thing is clear: Many times we experience things out of context, and our awareness of “good” and “bad” is limited.

 

Interested? Check out Blog 1 and 2 of this series…

The Power of the Mind 1: Are your beliefs supporting, or hurting you?

The Power of the Mind (2): Emotions Give Meaning to What We Think.
 

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The Power of the Mind 2: Emotions Give Meaning to What We Think.

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In his teachings, David R. Hawkins distinguishes between what he calls “content”, and “context”. Content is what we say or what happens, and context is why we say it, more specifically, the consciousness level from which a certain statement originates. I can say “I love you” (content) as I feel a wave of gratitude and love raise through my body, or I can say it feeling the fear that the other one might leave me. Or, I could say it out of fear, but not be aware that that is the emotion (context) which I am experiencing. I would be thinking that I feel love, even though it is something I used to feel but don’t feel now anymore (because now, there is fear). That happens frequently, and it is one of the reasons why we get stuck, and why psychological support can be extremely helpful.

(Please click here for reading about Hawkins’ consciousness levels, a more complete description of what he means by context.)

So, a belief comes with certain emotions, and thus, a certain context. But this also works the other way around: When we have a certain emotion, it usually comes with the experience of corresponding beliefs. And our conscious or subconscious mind can “subscribe” to those beliefs, decide that they are true and incorporate them into the own mental structure. That’s how we create our mental landscape, or map of reality, and how we guide ourselves trying to learn from past experiences. When we feel fear, we subscribe to the belief pattern that something is dangerous. And later, that will be a fact for us, even though the fear may have dissolved.

Many times we are not aware of the context of our thoughts. We are not aware why a politician really argues for a certain cause. Maybe he believes in it and wants to do his best in making it a reality (e.g. in willingness, 310). Or he is tired and exhausted but just trying to get through the interview (e.g. apathy, 50). Or he is scared of the personal consequences to him if he doesn’t take that stand (e.g. fear, 100). He might be all excited about it and feel that it is his vocation to make a change in this specific field (e.g., love, 500). Or he might feel that it is the best thing that can be done, and that within the possible choices, he considers this the best one to go for (e.g., acceptance, 350). In all of those cases, the argument might be the same. The words are the same. But the motivation is different, the emotions are different, and thus, the energy level or consciousness level from which the argument is presented, is a different one.

Generally, the more positive our energy around a certain topic, the more impact we’ll have. The higher the context (energy level), the more positive will our emotions be. Then we can reach and touch more people, we have more energy to make efforts, more positive ideas and thoughts, and we get more joy from it, which on its own is contagious.

Context trumps: the more positive, the more powerful.

 

Check out Blog 1 and 3 of this series…

The Power of the Mind 1: Are your beliefs supporting, or hurting you?

The Power of the Mind (3): How positive thoughts can be negative.

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THE POWER OF THE MIND I

The Power of the Mind: are your beliefs supporting, or hurting you?

It is common knowledge that what we believe and hold in mind tends to manifest. There is a lot of investigation about the self-fulfilling prophecy. It shows numerous times that a belief we have about reality tends to become true. So if we hold a belief like “nobody loves me” it is more likely that we experience rejection and the lack of connection with others, than if we believe something like “it’s easy for people to love me”.

Beliefs that are connected with negative emotions such as regret, guilt, shame, or anger can be limiting us and keeping us from growing or having positive experiences. It is not the belief itself, nor the words, that are the problem, but the underlying negative emotions. They influence the way we perceive and filter our perceptions, and they actually keep us from letting go of those beliefs. We may reason and rationally know that they are not true, that some people do love us. But emotionally, we don’t get to feel it. So, deep in ourselves, we would feel that nobody loves us, even though people show or tell us the opposite. And when we don’t feel the love we receive, we may behave in a way that will actually push others away. And that, in return, will minimize the situations in which we could experience love.

That is why, with our clients, we put a big emphasis on finding and completely canceling out negative belief systems: Instead of trying to change the behavior with a lot of effort, and trying to change our outside experiences, or just correcting the way we think, we focus on thoroughly changing our inner world of possibilities. And then, when our inner beliefs and attitude are positive, it is much easier for us to actually perceive that same positivity in our lives, and to behave accordingly. So when I believe that I am lovable, I may perceive somebody flirting with me and make a witty remark in return, or just react with a smile… whereas, when I don’t believe it, I may not perceive the flirt, or react with insecurity, and the outcome would be very different.

It is amazing how much a person can change when he or she “simply” lets go of and cancels the 10 most negative beliefs about themselves they hold. All the negativity connected with those beliefs takes up a lot of personal energy, and when they are gone all that energy can be used for creating a different experience and life. So exciting!

You can apply the knowledge about the self-fulfilling prophecy: Change what you think, so you’ll change your experiences!

 

Interested? Check out Blog 2 and 3 of this series…

The Power of the Mind (2): Emotions Give Meaning to What We Think.

The Power of the Mind (3): How positive thoughts can be negative.
 

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FREE GIFT: Click here to get Katharina Seidler’s ebook “Three Keys to Manifesting Abundance” to learn how to bring more meaning, abundance and love into your life!

 

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